Sometime back, when we were holding some fun quiz at work, I, being the part of the committee was put in the dock, as I never get to otherwise participate. It was a random thing & I went with the flow.
The question put to me was "What would be the one most important thing you would give a girl preparing for a beauty pageant?"
I didn't have to think half a moment for this answer. - 'CONFIDENCE.'
Confidence is the one accessory which can make anybody beautiful, attractive & desirable. It would make her believe that she has what it takes to be there. It would help her discover her potential & instill enough words, that she would feel herself as beautiful.
The reply was well liked and that ended there.
...Later when I was complimented on my spontaneous reply, I thought - how true is this! From personal experience I can vouch for this fact, that when a female has confidence, even if she is breaking in unforgiving zits on her face, she'll not be affected in her zest & spirit for meeting people.. doing what she wants out there & living life. Whereas, even if she is spotlessly flawless, if she doesn't have the confidence that she measures up to good, all that flawless beauty will be of no good.
So what is confidence.. & how does one gain it or how would one inspire confidence in someone?
In simple definers, Confidence is when you are comfortable in your skin. Confidence is when you know you are good enough, without waiting for external subscriptions. Confidence is the surety that you'll make it through any situation on your own. It also is the comfort with which you seek help without feeling that you are lowering your pride. Confidence is when you are respectful towards yourself & don't get intimidated by others. It is also being respectful towards everyone without feeling insecure or instilling a forced fear among others. Confidence is when you can say your say without getting scared of repercussions. Confidence is when you are content in being yourself. Content in the knowledge you are loved by the universe.
So how do you instill this in someone? Some people are born confident. They do not need to be helped or provided supplement to build that. But some people aren't that way. Maybe because of their persona, maybe by their upbringing. These are the ones that need the the building up.
There's just one bottomline way to do this. By simply letting people in your life be for what they are, for what they are. To let them bloom the way they do without trying to change the course of their rooting. Even angled blooms look beautiful when natural..& fenced plants too look jaded when restricted too much. When people are comfortable to be themselves, confidence is a but natural resultant.
I do believe, that even if just this one thing is in place, you appreciate yourself without expecting anything that can make or shake your self belief and that itself brings you appreciation without looking for it. When the inner sanctum of the self is nourished well, confidence is bound to be alive and thriving.
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The question put to me was "What would be the one most important thing you would give a girl preparing for a beauty pageant?"
I didn't have to think half a moment for this answer. - 'CONFIDENCE.'
Confidence is the one accessory which can make anybody beautiful, attractive & desirable. It would make her believe that she has what it takes to be there. It would help her discover her potential & instill enough words, that she would feel herself as beautiful.
The reply was well liked and that ended there.
...Later when I was complimented on my spontaneous reply, I thought - how true is this! From personal experience I can vouch for this fact, that when a female has confidence, even if she is breaking in unforgiving zits on her face, she'll not be affected in her zest & spirit for meeting people.. doing what she wants out there & living life. Whereas, even if she is spotlessly flawless, if she doesn't have the confidence that she measures up to good, all that flawless beauty will be of no good.
So what is confidence.. & how does one gain it or how would one inspire confidence in someone?
In simple definers, Confidence is when you are comfortable in your skin. Confidence is when you know you are good enough, without waiting for external subscriptions. Confidence is the surety that you'll make it through any situation on your own. It also is the comfort with which you seek help without feeling that you are lowering your pride. Confidence is when you are respectful towards yourself & don't get intimidated by others. It is also being respectful towards everyone without feeling insecure or instilling a forced fear among others. Confidence is when you can say your say without getting scared of repercussions. Confidence is when you are content in being yourself. Content in the knowledge you are loved by the universe.
So how do you instill this in someone? Some people are born confident. They do not need to be helped or provided supplement to build that. But some people aren't that way. Maybe because of their persona, maybe by their upbringing. These are the ones that need the the building up.
There's just one bottomline way to do this. By simply letting people in your life be for what they are, for what they are. To let them bloom the way they do without trying to change the course of their rooting. Even angled blooms look beautiful when natural..& fenced plants too look jaded when restricted too much. When people are comfortable to be themselves, confidence is a but natural resultant.
I do believe, that even if just this one thing is in place, you appreciate yourself without expecting anything that can make or shake your self belief and that itself brings you appreciation without looking for it. When the inner sanctum of the self is nourished well, confidence is bound to be alive and thriving.
© All rights reserved with Biraj 3Vedi. To re-print, prior permission required from the author.