"Its only Words....

...& words are all I have to take your heart away. "

What a lovely song this is.

Blessed are the people who can just as easily bring out the verbal verbose they feel within their hearts & empty the heart...but its equally unblessing/terrible for people who are eloquent, but get tongue tied or who actually cannot well put across what they feel at the times when its most needed. It's too constraining.

Then those words go down in the head, where nobody's listening..or it goes down in a diary albeit... paper or blog one.

Many a times when I've thought of it, the first impression is that, it is usually the problem of a person who is very unsure. But my psychological mind (:P) has probed the subject deeper & has learnt that, that is not the only reason. Apart from an inherent reservedness some people have, there can be various reasons for people to hold back on their words. Most of the common reasons are:

• When there is fear of rejection
• When there is uncertainty of the feeling of the thought wanting to be expressed
• When there is an ego at a definite unhealthy high place to go and approach someone
• When one really feels that what s/he may speak will anyways not make a difference
• When one has lost hopes/faith on the bearer of the subject
• When you are so hurt that words don't form proper fragments in the mind to come out
• When you don't want to make yourself vulnerable to open bruises
• When you don't want to break someone's heart as well as you can't lie either
• When you fear losing........this can be anything, fear of losing loved one, relation, hope, ...job. Anything
• When one thinks that his/her knowledge is too deep for the recipient to understand
• & most importantly, when you don't trust yourself anymore. I assume this to be the most painful of all the reasons

I'm sure you must be wondering, that all these points are only related to sadness/negativity etc. There's good reason. I do very much believe when one is happy & even if a word is not uttered, the happiness reflects itself on the face. It Sure does.
Factually, we humans live the fact of, "Laugh & the world laughs with you, Cry & you cry alone", We are forever protecting the other side, the emotionally scarred side, going on about with a made up face hoping that what you feel will somehow reach the other person.

It Doesn't.

Let me finish off by quoting an amazing quote here:
"Whenever you expect someone to understand what you feel, always remember that how can the person know what you were never able to express?
-Things left unsaid often remain unheard."

So, Go express! It may not be the safest way...but again, there is no other way.
Is there?

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