Love can be expressed in such various emotions, It never ever ceases to surprise me.
On my way back home from work today, a colleague happened to mention something about guests coming over at his place & how he wished he had been home.
Then after a pause of a few minutes, he started how glad he was that his wife was there to take care of everything. He went on to add that how his wife did everything with such warmth & not becoz she has to.
In acknowledgement, I didn't feel like interrupting this heartful chat he was on upon then.. only added that he was a lucky person.
His immediate reply turning full 90 degrees me WITH the seatbelt, & saying "Yes, I am a very lucky person "; gave me such a smug feeling, that my appreciation for this guy was suddenly born.
Suddenly born becoz, he was always a colleague with whom I shared a cab. A sparingly English speaking..or rather a pure Telugu speaking guy, we hardly interacted much on our way.
But when he said, "Indeed I am very lucky. She takes care of everything..right from my tiffin box to the kids homework to this pressed shirt [pointing at his shirt] that I wear daily at work. I don't have to worry for anything happening at home."
I was really glad. I'd never thought about him... but if I would've been asked to, I would never have imagined him talking thus. He being from a lil orthodox background & roots deep in rural Andhra.
So while I was hearing him, I thought to myself as well, "its such a contented feeling to be loved such by your partner. Lucky are those people who get so appreciated & valued in a relation." He didn't mention what all she was doing... he actually mentioned what he was not doing.
He then added, "Right from taking care the impromptu guests which keep pouring in his home, to taking care of the children while they are ill, she handles every other need which suddenly comes up.. she is a very patient person."
He took me down his memory lane by telling me how he'd never even seen her till the day of the wedding.. how he'd not known anything about her & how his wife who hailed from a village, still settled in well, within his family & took such good care of them.
I think more than being with the guests he missed his wife then, & what he spoke was out of a deep care for her.
Listening to him was such a pleasant thing, that got me like, 'Lucky She!! '
But what I mostly felt was, If I'm to find a guy like this, I'd count myself damned lucky!
At the end of the day, dosen't matter if you speak a smatter of fluent English or speak the language modestly. Its how you convey that's important.
It even doesn't matter if you wear the best of clothes & have the best of appreciations from colleagues...
At the end of the day if you return home to someone who cares for you as much as you'd wish S/He to,
Life's Blissed.
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Thats an interesting thing which is in abundance in India and around Indians - only thing is, we fail to appreciate it and look towards more superficial bliss beyond the seas and over to the west... in the form of a supposedly more developed and sophisticated culture and thought-process.
ReplyDeleteYes, a relationship does mean a lot of understanding... and far far more less of expectations (or rather, an open reception to unexpectations). Today, in the world of expectations, we go for so much of analysis of compatibility that we fail to understand its true criteria. A typical home of indian culture brings up the girl-child to be fully aware of what is (or is not) expected from a wife and what to (or not to) expect from a husband - and that is how she is successful in her endeavour of life. Similar goes the story with the boy-child.
However, things nowadays do not go that way. The girl-child and the boy-child have grown up... have now expectations... and training their off-springs to have expectations. So, there creeps in the element of probable disharmony in the marital familial bliss.
May God have mercy upon us and guide us rightly, as, its WE now who have to do that kind of parenting.
That was a very interesting comment Sir! Thank U. :) Yr comments are insightful... Makes me wanna start off on another post reading them...
ReplyDeletehmm its first time i wanna agree with you but again seems like fantasy
ReplyDeletePriyank: Hope you aren't that cynical as you were in 2010!:D
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